CelebritySarah Paulson's Career Advice? Don't Succeed So Early
Maybe you know Sarah Paulson as that actress who played Marcia Clark (FX's The People v. O.J. Simpson) or as one of the mainstays of the spooky American Horror Story ensemble (she's back on the show this month), but the 41-year-old's career hasn't progressed as quickly as she'd hoped. Which is why it's all working out exactly as she wants it to.
Start Out Disappointed If at All Possible
If my career had turned out like the fantasy I had of what it was going to be, it would never have made me happy. But I couldn't have known that until it didn't happen. I found a success that is so much bigger and deeper and better, and it's because it happened later. If any of what I'm having happen now—the successes—would have happened to me when I was younger, I would have been ruined. Because when you're young, and things come super easily to you, and you have success right out of the gate, you're liable to think that's how it actually works. You start to think you don't need to be fully prepared or committed to have these things meet you.
Don't Keep Calm, But Carry On
I muscled a lot of what I've achieved by sheer force of will and relentless determination. And I wasn't hearing a lot of “Everything's going to be fine. You're going to have everything you want.” I would get one job, and then I wouldn't work again for two years. Or I would get one great job, and it would very quickly become a nothing thing, or I would lose it last minute to someone who then went on to win the Oscar. To me, I “made” it when I got the part in 12 Years a Slave and played a really hideous woman in an unapologetic way. I know some friends of mine who said they refused to play that part because she was so despicable. That was totally perplexing to me in a way that is sort of unforgivable.
Take the Road That Doesn't Lead to Julia Roberts
There was a time when I believed if I was going to be successful, it was going to look like a particular thing. And that particular thing was Julia Roberts. I was young and wanted to be an actress, and success meant being an enormous mega-movie star. It had to look like the trajectory of the actors around me. I thought, “Oh, I want to do what they do,” and that blinded me to the things I could do. I was so busy wanting to be Julia Roberts that it never occurred to me that my career could be something else. And that it could be equally rich, and—the most important thing—it would be mine, whatever it was.
True Success Is: Naps
There was a time in my career when I never, ever would have said no to something—whether it was a role or whether it was doing whatever it took to get into the Limelight on a Saturday night. (I'm so dating myself, but that is true: I tried to get into the Limelight in New York City—or Nell's or Don Hill's or whatever the hell was the thing to do at the time.) I was just so desperate to have a job, to be anointed as a cool person, so scared of being forgotten. And so, at this moment, my idea of success is being able to say, “I'm not going to play that part because it doesn't speak to me” or “It's my day off, and I'm not going to go do that thing. I'm going to take a nap and read a book.”
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